This is not a test.

This is not a test.

You get one. One life.

75..85…maybe 100 years.

If you’re lucky.

Yet constantly we’re acting as if our ability to follow a script is the key to doing life the right way.

The key to happiness.

“College? Check.

Career… to be determined.

Married? No.

Kids? Well…”

       God this is a lot of pressure.

              And I don't even know if I want all of that. 

At 18 it seemed to me there was a task list to be accomplished before I got my “happily ever after” adulthood certificate.

The space between making a family and death seemed like it would be filled with



Credit scores.

Saving for retirement.


       Wait.. why am I following this script again?


It seemed like...

If I just scored enough “Living the American Dream” points I’d win happiness.

It doesn’t work that way.


As much as I would like to live for 100 more years I may not even live to see tomorrow.

The future is a product of my imagination.

I am what I decide to be.

Right now.

So I decide to follow my own path. To let love and happiness guide me through.

To die of pure exhaustion from chasing my own dreams.

Instead of somebody else’s.

- - -

When I was around 16 years old I remember my boyfriend's sister talking about how she wanted to live a unique life. She didn't want to just do what everyone else was doing. 

I thought she was crazy! Obviously there was a set way of doing things that our parents had set out before us that should be replicated. That's how you do life!

After nearly 10 years on this planet since then, I think I finally understand what she meant. She wanted to follow happiness. She wanted to experience this world while she had the chance-and she wanted to do it her way. She knew that following your heart was better than following a script. 

It's not about going against the grain. It's about doing what is right for you. It's about being aligned with your true purpose and what makes you excited to be alive. 

I'm also not saying that life is about laying on the beach all day or bumming off of people that work hard so that you can play. 

I'm saying that working towards aligning your work with your passion is key. 

The energy that we can pour into something that we love and believe in is what makes for true success. Putting in the hours for a cause that we do not believe in just to bring home a paycheck is necessary at certain times for sure. I'm just not convinced that this is a life long solution. 

So forget what ideas you have in your head about what your life is "supposed to be." What do you WANT it to be? What do you want to spend your days doing? You can figure out a way to build a lifestyle around it-to make money off of it. Sure it is going to take time. I'm definitely still a work in progress. But I am exactly where I want to be right now. There isn't time to waste anywhere else. Are you where you want to be?